Slave Training Minicourse
Question Of Punishment
When you're actively
looking to train a slave as a part of your life, you need to be wary of
'experts' that speak of punishment as the ultimate way to control a
slave and to have them do what you ask of them. Punishment has many
other uses in your slave training life that you will want to consider.
The problem with punishment and slave training is that it has been
glamorized too often in the media and in porn sites. It seems like all
you need to do is whip someone a little bit and they become complacent
and obedient. Of course, this would be a nice thing for a Dominant and
it would certainly make their lives easier, but this is not always the
In fact, in many situations, the use of punishment backfires in terms
of how it is supposed to help a slave training situation. While it is
meant to create obedience, it often inspires disobedience and the idea
of 'topping from the bottom.' Though this is more often the case with
beginning Dominants and experienced Subs; that does not mean that
punishment doesn’t need to be something to think about when beginning a
new BDSM relationship.
The fact of the matter is that many Subs like punishment. A lot. They
want to be whipped, flogged, and degraded because it turns them on and
makes them feel pleasure. While there's nothing inherently wrong with
this reaction, the idea of a slave and Master relationship is one in
which the Master determines how the slave is feeling at any given time.
When the slave does something wrong, they should be upset that they
have failed their Master, not happy to be receiving punishment.
Some subs will go so far as to disobey on purpose in order to receive
punishments. This is not going to help the slave training process and
can become frustrating for a Dominant that is new to their position or
who simply doesn't have the experience to come up with other ways of
controlling their slave.
What you might want to do as a Dominant is to make sure you are talking
to your slave before going into a more formal relationship. Talk to
them about what turns them on and what makes them feel more
subservient. Most Subs are quite clear about these reactions in
themselves. Subs know when they are masochistic and when verbal
degradation can reduce them to being subservient. Talking ahead of time
is the best way to start figuring out what is going to work for your
But the real 'cure' for punishments that go awry is to stop whatever is
not working immediately. Trying something over and over and expecting
different results is the definition of insanity – and not a good way to
have a successful slave training situation.
What you need to realize is the not all punishments you give as a
Master are going to be construed as punishments. Many slaves will often
enjoy the attention that punishment is giving them and will willfully
disobey in order to receive that attention again and again.
To stop this from happening, you need to find out what is going to work
as a punishment for the slave – humiliation, degradation, verbal
humiliation, etc. Each slave is different, but there will be one thing
that the slave in question will not want to do, so it will be seen as
an actual punishment to them – and something that they will try to
avoid in the future with the appropriate behavior you have provided for
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